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If you are getting rejected then it must not be your fault at all. It can be that the other side might not want you or they did not agree with your conclusions or they want something else.


The other day, I was reading an article by Bill Murphy Jr on inc.com about "People Who Learn These 5 Simple Rules Have Very High Emotional Intelligence". And he explained it well.

The fourth point he mentioned that "figure out if the other side actually can reach an agreement".

Seriously that stuck me down with my own experience with life.

And here are some stories with my own experiences, I wanted to share with you. Feel free to give me your feedback in the comment section.

He was explaining how rejections work in real life. If you are getting rejected then it must not be your fault at all. It can be that the other side might not want you or they did not agree with your conclusions or they want something else.

That's it.

You might be getting it all wrong all the time. You need to drop that idea. whatever it is.

One experience I remember about this is that I was referred by a friend of a friend in his company. I got interviewed with them and everything went well. The interview was also great. I was so confident that I will be getting selected.

But the next day, I got a rejection mail. My mind started thinking that something must be wrong. Or I did something different. So on and on...

When we met on weekend. He told me that my interview was great and the interviewer was happy to get me on his team. But unfortunately, HR wanted to select one of her relatives. So she selected her and not me.


Another experience, I remember, that is being rejected by my crush.
I really liked her and pursued her for quite some time but we were not going any forward. So one day I confronted her about my feeling. Then she mentioned that she got a breakup recently and don't want to commit to any relationship soon.

Or she might be lying, she might not be interested in me and might don't want to hurt me.

That's it.

If they prefer some type of friends then they will choose them. Mostly this happens unconsciously. We don't know why we like certain people and don't like others. We need to be aware of behavioral biases. And how life works around.

Another experience I recall is, I was interviewing for one of the projects. It was related to full-stack development and managing uses at a large scale. I got interviewed with the client and they seem okay with my experiences and work. In the second round discussed with the project head. He rejected me. While taking feedback from HR, I got to know that they want very specific experience in some tools.

We need to check what is driving the other party to make decision.



Reference:

  • https://www.inc.com/bill-murphy-jr/people-who-learn-these-5-simple-rules-have-very-high-emotional-intelligence.html